Parental attention is a primary motivator for both good and bad behavior, especially in younger children. PMT teaches parents to use their attention as a powerful motivator through praise.
Clinicians can guide parents to:
Make praise or approval immediate, consistent and appropriate for every instruction or house rule a child or adolescent follows. This makes it more likely to see future improvements.
Use specific phrases of appreciation—called “labeled praise”—as in:
“Nice job picking up your toys,” or “I appreciate when you do your homework without reminders.”
Parents should avoid praise that does not reflect on a specific action or behavior or does not seem relevant to something deserving.
Be alert for and reinforce a child’s positive and appropriate behaviors.
Offer enthusiastic and sincere praise, adding hugs and high-fives
Praise the “positive opposite” of a negative behavior, rather than giving attention to the negative, or praise less negative approximations of a behavior. For example: brushing teeth with less of a fuss
Attention-seeking children are less able to differentiate between positive or negative attention. Any attention reinforces negative behavior. Sometimes negative attention is even more reinforcing at first, because it is more predictable.