Boosting Self Esteem: Small Steps to Create Big Changes

Self-esteem influences how we view ourselves, handle relationships, and deal with life’s challenges. When self-esteem is high, we feel confident and driven. When it’s low, even minor setbacks can seem difficult.

As a non-profit providing pro-bono mental health care, we believe everyone should have access to the resources and support needed to develop a strong sense of self. With commitment, guidance and practice, self-esteem can grow and improve.

Below are practical ways to begin boosting your self-esteem – one small step at a time.

Be in Touch with your Inner Self

Many people with low self-esteem have internal negativity that is harsh, persistent, and often very inaccurate. You may notice yourself thinking:

• “I’m not enough.”

• “I always seem to be messing up.

• “Other people are better than I am.”

Instead of silencing these thoughts, start observing them. Being aware is one of the first steps towards change. Begin by asking yourself:

• “Would I want my loved ones to feel this way?”

• “What challenges these thoughts?”

Over time, you can begin to replace harsh self-judgements with balanced statements.

Set Small, Achievable Goals 

Confidence grows through action.

Instead of setting large, overwhelming goals that feel like a far reach to achieve, set these goals into small, manageable steps. For example:

• Take a 10-minute break for a walk or small exercise

• Apply yourself to one main task for the day

• Make one phone call that you have been putting off

Every time you follow through, you reinforce a simple message: “I can do these hard things!”

Small victories build momentum. Momentum builds confidence.

Strengthen Your Support System

Healthy self-esteem does not develop in isolation. Humans need personal relationships, and this is done by surrounding ourselves with people we love, who encourage and value us.

Consider the following:

• Spending more time with those who uplift you

• Setting boundaries with individuals who belittle you

• Seeking out support groups

If you do not currently have strong support, therapy can provide a safe space to begin rebuilding.

Recognize Your Strengths

People with lower self-esteem often overlook their strengths. Trying to create a strength list can help.

Include:

• Skills you have developed

• Challenges that you were able to overcome

• Compliments that you received

• Qualities you value in yourself

If this feels difficult, ask a loved one what they appreciate about you and create a list on that. Continue to review this list when you can. Over time, your brain will begin to see the big picture, not just the perceived ones.

Take Care of Your Body 

Mental and physical health are connected. When we abandon things our body needs, our mood and self-perception often suffer. You do not need drastic changes right away.

The following can help tremendously:

• Aim for consistent sleep

• Drink enough water

• Move your body in ways that are manageable

• Step outside for air

Taking care of your body sends a powerful message.

Consider Professional Help 

Sometimes low self-esteem comes from deeper experiences. It is rarely created overnight – and it is not solved overnight either.

For many individuals, low self-esteem can be connected to much deeper experiences such as:

• Childhood neglect

• Trauma or abuse

• Bullying

• Stress

• Discrimination

• High Pressure Environments

When negativity is reinforced in you for years, it can be incredibly challenging to untangle them alone. This is where professional support can make a difference.

Working with professionals can:

• Identify the root cause of negative beliefs

• Develop healthy coping ways

• Rebuild your sense of worth

• Learn emotional-regulation

Therapy is a space for growth and self-discovery.

You Are Worth Support

Struggling with self-esteem can make you feel lonely. It can create the image that you are the only one that feels this way. These feelings of uncertainty are far more common than anyone can admit.

You are not defined by your harsh feelings or thoughts. You are not held back by your difficult experiences. And you are not alone! Building self-esteem takes time, practice, and support. Some days may feel like they fly by, and others can drag. What matters most is continuing to show up for yourself with intention.

If you are ready to begin – or even continue this process, help is available. Professional care can provide tools and encouragement needed to create lasting changes.

You are worthy of care and healing.